My commitment to Relational Integrity

Relationships are the most important thing we have in our lives. Love is the greatest feeling in the world. And everyone is imperfect which makes relationships messy.

It is my commitment to the world that in spite of this, there is a way through — if we commit to Relational Integrity.

Relational Integrity is the capacity to be honest, compassionate, and real — while remaining genuinely curious about another's experience without abandoning your own. It recognizes that relationships are imperfect and messy, and refuses shutdown, blame, or reactive escalation as the final word. When conflict happens there is a commitment to return and repair. When alignment isn't possible, separation comes from clarity not hostility.

I commit to living this way.

As someone who teaches this, I am not perfect and will not be perfect. I will make mistakes. However my commitment is to return to my relationships, when the timing is right, to see if repair is possible. I have returned to repair in multiple relationships in my life, sometimes years later.

This prayer, that I learned from my teachers, is what helps me to do this again and again. I hold it at the root of all of my work.

I commit to seeing you, me and everyone as innocent, in order to return to a state of love and peace.